What Makes a Space Actually Safe?

(And What Happens When You Try to Test It)

You’ve seen the sticker.
You’ve heard the buzzword.
“Safe space.”

But let’s be honest—too many people treat it like a mood board instead of a mandate.
Cozykins means it when we say we work hard to host safer events. That doesn’t mean conflict-free, drama-free, or everyone's-a-saint; it means we’ve set clear, non-negotiable standards about how people treat each other—and what happens if they don’t! We’re not interested in vibes-only safety.
We care about actual safety. And that requires clarity, not vague promises.

Quick Reality Check:

• No, you can’t “joke” about race, gender, trauma, or violence.

• No, being neurodivergent or “just blunt” isn’t a free pass for being cruel.

• No, your “playstyle,” your tone, or your intent don’t override someone else’s safety and wellness.

• And no—you don’t get to call us “not inclusive” just because we won’t accommodate shitty behavior.~

We’ve had a few people try that. Let’s say, we have a history of proving our zero-tolerance policies aren’t the ones to test boundaries on! “Kind, not nice.” It’s a reminder that enforcing boundaries is not villainous or wicked, and that our compassion and care come from places of experience and advocacy.

So What Is a Safe Space?

At Cozy events, safe means:

• The freedom to express yourself without backlash. That is, safe, loving, self-expression.

• Zero tolerance for hate, abuse, or threats—online or in person.

• Consent-first play, especially at Takari Tribe LARP events!

• One warning max for minor violations. And trust us, some things? No second chances, no warnings.

We don't give people the benefit of the doubt when others' dignity, safety, or trauma are on the line. In today’s society, we need to be uplifting one another, not enshrining our goofy ideas on the wrong side of history. Genuinely, it’s easy to have accountability and integrity. It’s easy to own mistakes and apologize.
Not doing so is simply severe weakness, a malnourishment of your very soul. “Ghosting” on decent people is emotional avoidance and lack of accountability in relationships. We’re way stronger than that, and always hope folks can see that in themselves, too!

And If You Cross That Line?

You’re done.
We mean that in the most cozy way possible. No big fight— we don’t do drama.
We do uphold boundaries.
We utilize our network in severe situations; you could be blacklisted from affiliated events, communities, etc.

Why It Matters

Because many of us didn’t grow up in safe homes, towns, or friend circles.
Because some of us still flinch when we hear someone raise their voice.
Because our events serve neurodivergent kids, queer teens, disabled adults, parents in recovery, and folks rebuilding their entire sense of belonging.
We’re trying to be a soft place to land. And that takes work!

🧸 Want to Join Us?

Cool. Come hang. Just don’t test our patience in the name of “just being real!”

We’ll always choose real safety over fake civility. That’s what makes Cozy actually cozy!

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